
Why does his shirt look like a cat for 10 seconds in my brain?
Why does his shirt look like a cat for 10 seconds in my brain?
The bottom right corner looks like a little dog who needs a haircut :)
Cool pic
The bottom right corner looks like a little dog who needs a haircut :)
Cool pic
My brush wasn't working so good so I had to use crayons...
My brush wasn't working so good so I had to use crayons...
I'm bad at drawing...
But I have this:
Love is unconditional. Fear is full of conditions. In the track of
fear, I love you if you let me control you, if you are good to me, if you
fit into the image I make for you. I create an image of the way you
should be, and because you are not and never will be the image, I
judge you because of that, and find you guilty. Many times I even
feel ashamed of you because you are not what I want you to be. If
you don't fit that image I create, you embarrass me, you annoy
me, I have no patience at all with you. I am just pretending
kindness. In the track of love, there is no if; there are no
conditions. I love you for no reason, with no justification. I love you
the way you are, and you are free to be the way you are. If I don't
like the way you are, then I'd better be with someone who is the
way I like her to be. We don't have the right to change anyone
else, and no one else has the right to change us. If we are going to
change, it is because we want to change, because we don't want
to suffer any longer.
Most people live their entire lives in the track of fear. They are
in a relationship because they feel they have to be. They are in a
relationship where they have all those expectations about their
partner and about themselves. All that drama and suffering is
because we are using the channels of communication that existed
before we were born. People judge and are victimized, they gossip
about each other, they gossip with their friends, they gossip in a
bar. They make their family members hate each other. They
accumulate emotional poison, and they send it to their children.
"Look at your father, what he did to me. Don't be like your father.
All men are like this; all women are like that." This is what we do
with the people we love so much - with our own children, with our
own friends, with our partners.
In the track of fear we have so many conditions, expectations,
and obligations that we create a lot of rules just to protect
ourselves against emotional pain, when the truth is that there
shouldn't be any rules. These rules affect the quality of the
channels of communication between us, because when we are
afraid, we lie. If you have the expectation that I have to be a
certain way, then I feel the obligation to be that way. The truth is I
am not what you want me to be. When I am honest and I am what
I am, you are already hurt, you are mad. Then I lie to you, because
I am afraid of your judgment. I am afraid you are going to blame
me, find me guilty, and punish me. And every time you remember,
you punish me again and again and again for the same mistake.
In the track of love, there is justice. If you make a mistake, you
pay only once for that mistake, and if you truly love yourself, you
learn from that mistake. In the track of fear, there is no justice. You
make yourself pay a thousand times for the same mistake. You
make your partner or your friend pay a thousand times for the
same mistake. This creates a sense of injustice and opens many
emotional wounds. Then, of course, you set yourself up to fail.
Humans have dramas for everything, even for something so
simple and so little. We see these dramas in normal relationships
in hell because couples are in the track of fear.
In every relationship there are two halves of that relationship.
One half is you, and the other half is your son, your daughter, your
father, your mother, your friends, your partner. Of those halves,
you are only responsible for your half, you are not responsible for
the other half. It doesn't matter how close you think you are, or
how strongly you think you love, there is no way you can be
responsible for what is inside another person's head. You can
never know what that person feels, what that person believes, all
the assumptions she makes. You don't know anything about that
person. That is the truth, but what do we do? We try to be
responsible for the other half, and that is why relationships in hell
are based on fear, drama, and the war of control.
If we are in a war of control, it is because we have no respect.
The truth is that we don't love. It is selfishness, not love; it is just
to have the little doses that make us feel good. When we have no
respect there is a war of control because each person feels
responsible for the other. I have to control you because I don't
respect you. I have to be responsible for you, because whatever
happens to you is going to hurt me, and I want to avoid pain.
Then, If I see that you are not being responsible, I am going to
knock you all the time to try to make you be responsible, but
"responsible" from my personal point of view. It doesn't mean that
I am right.
This is what happens when we come from the track of fear.
Because there is no respect, I act as though you are not good
enough or intelligent enough to see what is good or not good for
you. I make the assumption that you are not strong enough to go
into certain situations and take care of yourself. I have to take
control and say, "Let me do it for you," or "Don't do that." I try to
suppress your half of the relationship and take control of the whole
thing.
If I take control of our whole relationship, where is your part? It
doesn't work.
I'm bad at drawing...
But I have this:
Love is unconditional. Fear is full of conditions. In the track of
fear, I love you if you let me control you, if you are good to me, if you
fit into the image I make for you. I create an image of the way you
should be, and because you are not and never will be the image, I
judge you because of that, and find you guilty. Many times I even
feel ashamed of you because you are not what I want you to be. If
you don't fit that image I create, you embarrass me, you annoy
me, I have no patience at all with you. I am just pretending
kindness. In the track of love, there is no if; there are no
conditions. I love you for no reason, with no justification. I love you
the way you are, and you are free to be the way you are. If I don't
like the way you are, then I'd better be with someone who is the
way I like her to be. We don't have the right to change anyone
else, and no one else has the right to change us. If we are going to
change, it is because we want to change, because we don't want
to suffer any longer.
Most people live their entire lives in the track of fear. They are
in a relationship because they feel they have to be. They are in a
relationship where they have all those expectations about their
partner and about themselves. All that drama and suffering is
because we are using the channels of communication that existed
before we were born. People judge and are victimized, they gossip
about each other, they gossip with their friends, they gossip in a
bar. They make their family members hate each other. They
accumulate emotional poison, and they send it to their children.
"Look at your father, what he did to me. Don't be like your father.
All men are like this; all women are like that." This is what we do
with the people we love so much - with our own children, with our
own friends, with our partners.
In the track of fear we have so many conditions, expectations,
and obligations that we create a lot of rules just to protect
ourselves against emotional pain, when the truth is that there
shouldn't be any rules. These rules affect the quality of the
channels of communication between us, because when we are
afraid, we lie. If you have the expectation that I have to be a
certain way, then I feel the obligation to be that way. The truth is I
am not what you want me to be. When I am honest and I am what
I am, you are already hurt, you are mad. Then I lie to you, because
I am afraid of your judgment. I am afraid you are going to blame
me, find me guilty, and punish me. And every time you remember,
you punish me again and again and again for the same mistake.
In the track of love, there is justice. If you make a mistake, you
pay only once for that mistake, and if you truly love yourself, you
learn from that mistake. In the track of fear, there is no justice. You
make yourself pay a thousand times for the same mistake. You
make your partner or your friend pay a thousand times for the
same mistake. This creates a sense of injustice and opens many
emotional wounds. Then, of course, you set yourself up to fail.
Humans have dramas for everything, even for something so
simple and so little. We see these dramas in normal relationships
in hell because couples are in the track of fear.
In every relationship there are two halves of that relationship.
One half is you, and the other half is your son, your daughter, your
father, your mother, your friends, your partner. Of those halves,
you are only responsible for your half, you are not responsible for
the other half. It doesn't matter how close you think you are, or
how strongly you think you love, there is no way you can be
responsible for what is inside another person's head. You can
never know what that person feels, what that person believes, all
the assumptions she makes. You don't know anything about that
person. That is the truth, but what do we do? We try to be
responsible for the other half, and that is why relationships in hell
are based on fear, drama, and the war of control.
If we are in a war of control, it is because we have no respect.
The truth is that we don't love. It is selfishness, not love; it is just
to have the little doses that make us feel good. When we have no
respect there is a war of control because each person feels
responsible for the other. I have to control you because I don't
respect you. I have to be responsible for you, because whatever
happens to you is going to hurt me, and I want to avoid pain.
Then, If I see that you are not being responsible, I am going to
knock you all the time to try to make you be responsible, but
"responsible" from my personal point of view. It doesn't mean that
I am right.
This is what happens when we come from the track of fear.
Because there is no respect, I act as though you are not good
enough or intelligent enough to see what is good or not good for
you. I make the assumption that you are not strong enough to go
into certain situations and take care of yourself. I have to take
control and say, "Let me do it for you," or "Don't do that." I try to
suppress your half of the relationship and take control of the whole
thing.
If I take control of our whole relationship, where is your part? It
doesn't work.
here's mine, sorry there's a lot:
1.  (i have video i made with this https://www.youtube.com/shorts/VCk9VF_7C7Q watch it if u want, i'm not forcing u)
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