Maybe good advice would be that the kid also involve the patent who is "constantly calling him away" in this conversation....
Maybe good advice would be that the kid also involve the patent who is "constantly calling him away" in this conversation....
(everybody wants kids to be discouraged)
(everybody wants kids to be discouraged)
@Notyhjggb45 said:
(everybody wants kids to be discouraged)
... or educated
@Notyhjggb45 said:
> (everybody wants kids to be discouraged)
... or educated
You're not using kid mode anyway, because we're having to endure your extremely self-centered posts here.
But you do seem to be quite young. How are you doing on object permanence? When you walk away from the chess board, do you believe it no longer exists?
You're not using kid mode anyway, because we're having to endure your extremely self-centered posts here.
But you do seem to be quite young. How are you doing on object permanence? When you walk away from the chess board, do you believe it no longer exists?
@scarpentus said:
But you do seem to be quite young. How are you doing on object permanence? When you walk away from the chess board, do you believe it no longer exists?
No need to engage in this kind of borderline-abuse, especially with the young.
@Notyhjggb45 said:
(everybody wants kids to be discouraged)
Assuming you speak for yourself, it's part of growing up to learn that people you interact with cannot be asked to comply with your own needs or your own context. If you decide to play, it's part of your duty to first make sure that you have the time to do so, or to involve your parents so they know you need 5 or 10 minutes so you can play a game. You can't realistically expect that your opponent cope with that or that the platform evolves following your needs.
Let me kindly also remind you that it's also your parent's duty to teach you when it's a good time to chill or when it's not. Hobbies are not very high in the priority list of what is expected from you, no matter the age. We all would want this to be different, but the soonest you learn to do what you must do before what you want to do, the soonest you'll find the good balance.
@scarpentus said:
> But you do seem to be quite young. How are you doing on object permanence? When you walk away from the chess board, do you believe it no longer exists?
No need to engage in this kind of borderline-abuse, especially with the young.
@Notyhjggb45 said:
> (everybody wants kids to be discouraged)
Assuming you speak for yourself, it's part of growing up to learn that people you interact with cannot be asked to comply with your own needs or your own context. If you decide to play, it's part of your duty to first make sure that you have the time to do so, or to involve your parents so they know you need 5 or 10 minutes so you can play a game. You can't realistically expect that your opponent cope with that or that the platform evolves following your needs.
Let me kindly also remind you that it's also your parent's duty to teach you when it's a good time to chill or when it's not. Hobbies are not very high in the priority list of what is expected from you, no matter the age. We all would want this to be different, but the soonest you learn to do what you must do before what you want to do, the soonest you'll find the good balance.
True, AmiralFanchon, I was uncharitable, but one occasionally gets annoyed by rude/immature comments in these forums. I should let my better judgment stop me from engaging.
True, AmiralFanchon, I was uncharitable, but one occasionally gets annoyed by rude/immature comments in these forums. I should let my better judgment stop me from engaging.
https://www.youtube.com/shorts/b_4RTe3lxe4 if you want to know clearly what i'm saying
https://www.youtube.com/shorts/b_4RTe3lxe4 if you want to know clearly what i'm saying
Well, if that is your situation I suggest:
Step 1, have a discussion with your mom while NOT playing, and NOT right after she just asked you fir something. Discuss with her what your hobbys needs are, and come to an agreement about a compromise as to how you can combine your household tasks and your hobbys. Make clear that you are not in any way being disrespectful, but that you also work-life balance needs.
A reasonable parent will find an arrangement... Perhaps its dome reserved hours during the day/week where you get undisturbed play time... Perhaps its that during play time, you both agree that "right now" means immediately after the current blitz game is over, which sometimes will take up to 10 minutes. Details are up to what works for your family, but an arrangement is possible.
Step 2: If your parents are reasonable, you will reach an agreement. Respects it from your side exactly. They should do the same (and if they occasionally forget, politely remind them).
Step 3: If your parents refuse to have duch a conversation with you, frankly, you have bigger issues than defaulting a few chess games. Its time for family counseling. Turn to a school counselor or a trusted relative and ask for mediation.
Well, if that is your situation I suggest:
Step 1, have a discussion with your mom while NOT playing, and NOT right after she just asked you fir something. Discuss with her what your hobbys needs are, and come to an agreement about a compromise as to how you can combine your household tasks and your hobbys. Make clear that you are not in any way being disrespectful, but that you also work-life balance needs.
A reasonable parent will find an arrangement... Perhaps its dome reserved hours during the day/week where you get undisturbed play time... Perhaps its that during play time, you both agree that "right now" means immediately after the current blitz game is over, which sometimes will take up to 10 minutes. Details are up to what works for your family, but an arrangement is possible.
Step 2: If your parents are reasonable, you will reach an agreement. Respects it from your side exactly. They should do the same (and if they occasionally forget, politely remind them).
Step 3: If your parents refuse to have duch a conversation with you, frankly, you have bigger issues than defaulting a few chess games. Its time for family counseling. Turn to a school counselor or a trusted relative and ask for mediation.
Maybe be proactive. Before starting to play, just go see your parents saying "I am about to start playing chess, is there anything you want me to do first ?"
Maybe be proactive. Before starting to play, just go see your parents saying "I am about to start playing chess, is there anything you want me to do first ?"