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I Hate Winning

Nothing to say? Then don’t blog

Nothing to say? Then don’t blog

nah, I would say that this man says more and better than the majority of "pro" bloggers who offer you samples to sell you air and not a well-constructed work. 20 lines of blogs written by a ttitled player will receive as many likes or almost as a blog built on a personal testimony on an important subject, isn't that sad?

  • I'm starting to find the comments interesting because they force people to come out of their shells to say openly what they think about victory, I said my opinion, delighted to know that other people find that victory is a different taste for them, that's the beauty of chess!

Thanks @TheOnoZone !

nah, I would say that this man says more and better than the majority of "pro" bloggers who offer you samples to sell you air and not a well-constructed work. 20 lines of blogs written by a ttitled player will receive as many likes or almost as a blog built on a personal testimony on an important subject, isn't that sad? * I'm starting to find the comments interesting because they force people to come out of their shells to say openly what they think about victory, I said my opinion, delighted to know that other people find that victory is a different taste for them, that's the beauty of chess! Thanks @TheOnoZone !

This is so relatable, like OMG what?
I just lost and I can improve myself.
Winning just brings happiness to me but losing does the opposite.
It is totally fine though , not a problem

This is so relatable, like OMG what? I just lost and I can improve myself. Winning just brings happiness to me but losing does the opposite. It is totally fine though , not a problem

@ThePracticeGuy said in #22:

"In sports, Forbid empathy. Empathy is weakness. Weakness is vulnerability."

sounds like some character inner monologue in a movie I just saw. It went sideways. Did not work, humanity took over, in the end.

@ThePracticeGuy said in #22: > "In sports, Forbid empathy. Empathy is weakness. Weakness is vulnerability." sounds like some character inner monologue in a movie I just saw. It went sideways. Did not work, humanity took over, in the end.

Also, did anybody notice that someone having to win making the other lose, in the end is just a game, and within the game, one can always play another with same opponent. That perhaps the point becomes, as someone already pointed out, I think, not win or lose but how did this one win and the other lost, and the same question of mamy games perhaps with the same someone could be fun to view in that way.. It is more the journey than the end. Sounds less an old tune that the win or lose, this is the truth of the arena. There is no escape, etc... harsh is the law of nature (and that would also be an economic school of though point of view on Darwin, and would be flat wrong anyway, that is the law of "bread and games" would be more like it).

Also, did anybody notice that someone having to win making the other lose, in the end is just a game, and within the game, one can always play another with same opponent. That perhaps the point becomes, as someone already pointed out, I think, not win or lose but how did this one win and the other lost, and the same question of mamy games perhaps with the same someone could be fun to view in that way.. It is more the journey than the end. Sounds less an old tune that the win or lose, this is the truth of the arena. There is no escape, etc... harsh is the law of nature (and that would also be an economic school of though point of view on Darwin, and would be flat wrong anyway, that is the law of "bread and games" would be more like it).

Maybe he just meant "I hate having a winning position and blundering it away"?

Maybe he just meant "I hate having a winning position and blundering it away"?

@dboing said in #34:

sounds like some character inner monologue in a movie I just saw. It went sideways. Did not work, humanity took over, in the end.

it's the law of sport: look at football, you shake your opponent's hand before and after the match but during the match you will tackle him, prevent him from dribbling. if he falls in the penalty area you can throw in the trash the "empathy" you will do EVERYTHING but absolutely everything so that there is no penalty against you, and if there is a penalty, you must destabilize the shooter, not say “i wish u to score”. same in chess

of course, the regret and the hatred of winning come after the match, when you say to yourself "but what did I learn?"

@dboing said in #34: > sounds like some character inner monologue in a movie I just saw. It went sideways. Did not work, humanity took over, in the end. it's the law of sport: look at football, you shake your opponent's hand before and after the match but during the match you will tackle him, prevent him from dribbling. if he falls in the penalty area you can throw in the trash the "empathy" you will do EVERYTHING but absolutely everything so that there is no penalty against you, and if there is a penalty, you must destabilize the shooter, not say “i wish u to score”. same in chess of course, the regret and the hatred of winning come after the match, when you say to yourself "but what did I learn?"

What did I learn? I don't see this problem, you can learn a lot also from games you have won because usually you have made mistakes in these games as well.

What did I learn? I don't see this problem, you can learn a lot also from games you have won because usually you have made mistakes in these games as well.

except that the psychological factor is important: who will analyze their victories? I think 70% of people only analyze their defeats because most of the time (unless if you are a perfectionist) a little voice in your head tells you - yes! well done you won! now go to the next game! so except for the aesthetic interest of the game, few people learn from victory

except that the psychological factor is important: who will analyze their victories? I think 70% of people only analyze their defeats because most of the time (unless if you are a perfectionist) a little voice in your head tells you - yes! well done you won! now go to the next game! so except for the aesthetic interest of the game, few people learn from victory

there is always a selfish interest: when you lose, you analyze to justify why you lost. and those who analyze a victory impatiently await a figure of at least 90% accuracy and will consider a game where there is a mistake or a blunder as a failure or a stain. if it is perfect, they will brag about it as a marvel but few will want to spend time on what was the best move. It's the sad reality and that's why i worked to forgot the emotions after a win or a defeat. I just focus on every game and i try to learn from a game no matter the result .

there is always a selfish interest: when you lose, you analyze to justify why you lost. and those who analyze a victory impatiently await a figure of at least 90% accuracy and will consider a game where there is a mistake or a blunder as a failure or a stain. if it is perfect, they will brag about it as a marvel but few will want to spend time on what was the best move. It's the sad reality and that's why i worked to forgot the emotions after a win or a defeat. I just focus on every game and i try to learn from a game no matter the result .