afraid of playing

(@)Matzvi: 'I do tons of puzzles' ~ Too many and too quickly. Do ten‐-twenty a day, invest time and energy into that amount, and calculate everything before you start moving.

'with a real opponent I'm afraid to be considered too weak.' ~ You will never be good at something before being weak at it. In life, things never get better before they get worse.

(@)mrpricklies: 'if you get a lobby game, that's most likely playing a computer too.' ~ Why do you think that?

(@)Matzvi: 'I do tons of puzzles' ~ Too many and too quickly. Do ten‐-twenty a day, invest time and energy into that amount, and calculate everything before you start moving. 'with a real opponent I'm afraid to be considered too weak.' ~ You will never be good at something before being weak at it. In life, things never get better before they get worse. *** (@)mrpricklies: 'if you get a lobby game, that's most likely playing a computer too.' ~ Why do you think that?

Sandy1966-05

@Matzvi said ^

Hi guys, I'm Max from Italy. Almost a noob, I do tons of puzzles but I'm afraid of playing with others.
I play sometimes against the computer (sometimes winning) but with a real opponent I'm afraid to be considered too weak.
Any tip or advice?

Thank you!

Answer yourself this question: what's the worst that could happen if you're considered as a weak player? In fact, the only fair assessment of your chess strength is rating, and online rating means nothing. It's free.

@Matzvi said [^](/forum/redirect/post/nPkLfFqi) > Hi guys, I'm Max from Italy. Almost a noob, I do tons of puzzles but I'm afraid of playing with others. > I play sometimes against the computer (sometimes winning) but with a real opponent I'm afraid to be considered too weak. > Any tip or advice? > > Thank you! Answer yourself this question: what's the worst that could happen if you're considered as a weak player? In fact, the only fair assessment of your chess strength is rating, and online rating means nothing. It's free.

IamNOTamod

@Matzvi said ^

but with a real opponent I'm afraid to be considered too weak.
Any tip or advice?

Get over this fear, and remember that there are always players weaker than you. One does not experience growth by hiding in one's comfort zone.

@Matzvi said [^](/forum/redirect/post/nPkLfFqi) > but with a real opponent I'm afraid to be considered too weak. > Any tip or advice? Get over this fear, and remember that there are always players weaker than you. One does not experience growth by hiding in one's comfort zone.

RemRus

24 win. 2 lose
Another thing! Now it's correct! Learn to think in problems, you will be able to think in games. It won't be scary.

24 win. 2 lose Another thing! Now it's correct! Learn to think in problems, you will be able to think in games. It won't be scary.

Sandy1966-05

@IamNOTamod said ^

but with a real opponent I'm afraid to be considered too weak.
Any tip or advice?

Get over this fear, and remember that there are always players weaker than you. One does not experience growth by hiding in one's comfort zone.

Who said, he needs to grow in chess? Maybe he's just afraid that his illusions will be shattered. In any case this looks like a psychoogical thing, and it won't be cured with slogans.

@IamNOTamod said [^](/forum/redirect/post/V8Jf0SXa) > > but with a real opponent I'm afraid to be considered too weak. > > Any tip or advice? > > Get over this fear, and remember that there are always players weaker than you. One does not experience growth by hiding in one's comfort zone. Who said, he needs to grow in chess? Maybe he's just afraid that his illusions will be shattered. In any case this looks like a psychoogical thing, and it won't be cured with slogans.

kindaspongey edited

Does one go to a psychoogist in order to get theapy?

shadow1414

(@)IamNOTamod: 'Get over this fear' ~ That is like, 'Be happy.'

'there are always players weaker than you.' ~ That is like, 'There are people who are suffering worse than you.'

(@)IamNOTamod: 'Get over this fear' ~ That is like, 'Be happy.' 'there are always players weaker than you.' ~ That is like, 'There are people who are suffering worse than you.'

Sandy1966-05

@kindaspongey said ^

Does one go to a psychoogist in order to get theapy?

It's up to him. Perhaps, he can solve his problem by himself. But first he needs to recognize his problem.

@kindaspongey said [^](/forum/redirect/post/icxbzLfL) > Does one go to a psychoogist in order to get theapy? It's up to him. Perhaps, he can solve his problem by himself. But first he needs to recognize his problem.

IamNOTamod edited

@)shadow1414

Indeed. Motivational and heartwarming, no? As someone wise once told me, 'sometimes you need a slap on the face to get out of dreamland'.

@)shadow1414 Indeed. Motivational and heartwarming, no? As someone wise once told me, 'sometimes you need a slap on the face to get out of dreamland'.