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I feel morally sad when I post on the forum, no one agrees with me, I am on the verge of depression

I feel morally sad when I post on the forum, no one agrees with me whatever my answer + impression of nastiness in the answers, even offline, in real life, I have the impression of being ridiculed when I think I'm right I'm on the verge of depression, I need help

why when I post an opinion or an idea on the forum, the hand is often negative?

https://i.imgur.com/UeQY659.jpeg

and that I only have opinions that contradict what I say?

we even see that on this opinion which contradicts me there are 3 positive thumbs up

https://i.imgur.com/EHo6R4B.jpeg

while I'm sure there is at least part of what he says where he is wrong although I think he is completely wrong

I even proved he was wrong with a thoughtful text with concrete proof

its proofs are even in this discussion which is my response to @ColossusChess https://lichess.org/forum/general-chess-discussion/why-doesnt-the-opening-noun-sandinavian-defense-advance-variation-does-it-not-exist-#7

and what's more, he has 2300 elo, so he's stronger than me

how can an elo of 2300 say things that are in my opinion false?

in chess, a 2300elo is supposed to say things that are not false

you will say: what is the purpose of this discussion?

that I came to fill complain and that I don't have to fill complain

I'm sure some people will say I act like an angry child throwing a tantrum. and that this complaint here is a childish altitude

If I complain it's because I wonder why every time I post an opinion or an idea, there are only negative opinions and I feel like I'm not right every time

I'm not saying that I'm right all the time, there are certainly things I say where I'm not right

it's just that there are a lot of times when I'm sure I'm right and even high level players contradict what I say

it's like a painter saying the paint is red when the paint is green

This is concretely false and this paint remains green, even if he is a painter. Does color blindness also exist in the world of chess?

I can prove what I just said with the example where I respond to @ColassusChess in the forum link I gave.

basically he says that the opening is an error while Stockfish itself judges that the opening is concretely equal to 0.0

we have the fact before our eyes
it is clearly marked 0.0 how can he consider that the opening is concretely an error?

my goal is not to attack or have bad intentions about him @ColassusChess

This is just one example among many, I always have negative opinions even when it is absurd

what I mean is that no one says for example: "you have a good idea, I hadn't thought of that" or "that's an interesting approach"

every time I give an opinion, I am never right, and a lot of negative opinions or opinions that contradict what I say

Why do no people on the forum ever agree with me?

why do I feel like I'm being ridiculed, saying ridiculous things and leaving this forum feeling sad ?

while sometimes it is the response of others that is ridiculous, and no one on my side

the worst is that even in real life I say concrete things and people say that what I say is false, while contradicting myself and turning into ridicule

Is this problem coming from me? I would be a person who understands French poorly and has difficulty understanding obvious things?

Is it because I have low qi?

in the forum link I put, I have the impression that all the answers from others are not correct, or am I the one giving incorrect answers?

In conclusion I may be frustrated but I wonder why I rarely have positive opinions on the forum and why I have the impression of seeing nastiness in some of the responses

the feeling that no one agrees with me whatever I say, whether it is completely true or false, that makes me morally very sad

no one says I have good ideas or agrees with what I say, that almost never happens

Support or advice would be welcome even if I'm sure no one will support what I say.

Following what I have just said, I expect to have a lot of people who will contradict me and give me a lot of negative hands.

just one positive opinion or one person who agrees with me that would make me very happy.

I feel morally sad when I post on the forum, no one agrees with me whatever my answer + impression of nastiness in the answers, even offline, in real life, I have the impression of being ridiculed when I think I'm right I'm on the verge of depression, I need help why when I post an opinion or an idea on the forum, the hand is often negative? https://i.imgur.com/UeQY659.jpeg and that I only have opinions that contradict what I say? we even see that on this opinion which contradicts me there are 3 positive thumbs up https://i.imgur.com/EHo6R4B.jpeg while I'm sure there is at least part of what he says where he is wrong although I think he is completely wrong I even proved he was wrong with a thoughtful text with concrete proof its proofs are even in this discussion which is my response to @ColossusChess https://lichess.org/forum/general-chess-discussion/why-doesnt-the-opening-noun-sandinavian-defense-advance-variation-does-it-not-exist-#7 and what's more, he has 2300 elo, so he's stronger than me how can an elo of 2300 say things that are in my opinion false? in chess, a 2300elo is supposed to say things that are not false you will say: what is the purpose of this discussion? that I came to fill complain and that I don't have to fill complain I'm sure some people will say I act like an angry child throwing a tantrum. and that this complaint here is a childish altitude If I complain it's because I wonder why every time I post an opinion or an idea, there are only negative opinions and I feel like I'm not right every time I'm not saying that I'm right all the time, there are certainly things I say where I'm not right it's just that there are a lot of times when I'm sure I'm right and even high level players contradict what I say it's like a painter saying the paint is red when the paint is green This is concretely false and this paint remains green, even if he is a painter. Does color blindness also exist in the world of chess? I can prove what I just said with the example where I respond to @ColassusChess in the forum link I gave. basically he says that the opening is an error while Stockfish itself judges that the opening is concretely equal to 0.0 we have the fact before our eyes it is clearly marked 0.0 how can he consider that the opening is concretely an error? my goal is not to attack or have bad intentions about him @ColassusChess This is just one example among many, I always have negative opinions even when it is absurd what I mean is that no one says for example: "you have a good idea, I hadn't thought of that" or "that's an interesting approach" every time I give an opinion, I am never right, and a lot of negative opinions or opinions that contradict what I say Why do no people on the forum ever agree with me? why do I feel like I'm being ridiculed, saying ridiculous things and leaving this forum feeling sad ? while sometimes it is the response of others that is ridiculous, and no one on my side the worst is that even in real life I say concrete things and people say that what I say is false, while contradicting myself and turning into ridicule Is this problem coming from me? I would be a person who understands French poorly and has difficulty understanding obvious things? Is it because I have low qi? in the forum link I put, I have the impression that all the answers from others are not correct, or am I the one giving incorrect answers? In conclusion I may be frustrated but I wonder why I rarely have positive opinions on the forum and why I have the impression of seeing nastiness in some of the responses the feeling that no one agrees with me whatever I say, whether it is completely true or false, that makes me morally very sad no one says I have good ideas or agrees with what I say, that almost never happens Support or advice would be welcome even if I'm sure no one will support what I say. Following what I have just said, I expect to have a lot of people who will contradict me and give me a lot of negative hands. just one positive opinion or one person who agrees with me that would make me very happy.

its not that deep, but dont be depressed over forums on a chess website. Its a website about CHESS. Anyways hope u get better i agree with points on ur arguement

its not that deep, but dont be depressed over forums on a chess website. Its a website about CHESS. Anyways hope u get better i agree with points on ur arguement

I feel exactly the same as you sometimes.

One thing that helps me is to remember a few points. I'm listing them here to lift my own spirits now as much as yours.
(1) People usually only respond to us when they disagree. Writing "you're absolutely right" clutters the topic unnecessarily, so we often just don't see people who agree with us. The thumbs-up and thumbs-down reactions are probably biased towards the latter too because someone reading and agreeing with you will think "yes, that's right" and just move on, while someone with another opinion will be more likely to take the time to thumb you down.
(2) The effect of an online environment with text responses is to make everyone seem very blunt, even rude. If we were talking face to face with all these people, we would find that when they express their opinion as different from ours it would come across as friendly, not a rejection of what we think. Somehow face-to-face conversation lets people disagree while still showing respect and value for the other person's opinion, while online written words make that harder to do.
(3) Our opinion remains our valid opinion whether other people share it or not.

I haven't been looking at that thread about the Scandinavian Defence by the way, but I have appreciated other things you have written on this forum.

I feel exactly the same as you sometimes. One thing that helps me is to remember a few points. I'm listing them here to lift my own spirits now as much as yours. (1) People usually only respond to us when they disagree. Writing "you're absolutely right" clutters the topic unnecessarily, so we often just don't see people who agree with us. The thumbs-up and thumbs-down reactions are probably biased towards the latter too because someone reading and agreeing with you will think "yes, that's right" and just move on, while someone with another opinion will be more likely to take the time to thumb you down. (2) The effect of an online environment with text responses is to make everyone seem very blunt, even rude. If we were talking face to face with all these people, we would find that when they express their opinion as different from ours it would come across as friendly, not a rejection of what we think. Somehow face-to-face conversation lets people disagree while still showing respect and value for the other person's opinion, while online written words make that harder to do. (3) Our opinion remains our valid opinion whether other people share it or not. I haven't been looking at that thread about the Scandinavian Defence by the way, but I have appreciated other things you have written on this forum.

@Rishaaaan

thank you

I often post on the forum, to talk about chess, I like to give points of view on the subject of chess

the cause ?

It's because I'm simply passionate about the game.

on the other hand. there is another cause, which is not the main cause which is the fact that I am passionate about the game, it is the fact of sharing my ideas about the game and that I hope in return that it will interest other player.

as in real life, people rarely agree with me, I hope at the same time by sharing my ideas on chess that other people find that my ideas are interesting and will agree with me

and what's more, it would cheer me up, since in real life, sometimes, people often say that I'm not right

but here it's quite the opposite that happens, people say that I'm not right, and I'm ridiculed, like in real life

yet no one knows me, so I would be cursed every time I post on the forum?

Or am I so stupid that I can't understand what I'm writing?

Anyway, thank you very much for supporting me.

@Rishaaaan thank you I often post on the forum, to talk about chess, I like to give points of view on the subject of chess the cause ? It's because I'm simply passionate about the game. on the other hand. there is another cause, which is not the main cause which is the fact that I am passionate about the game, it is the fact of sharing my ideas about the game and that I hope in return that it will interest other player. as in real life, people rarely agree with me, I hope at the same time by sharing my ideas on chess that other people find that my ideas are interesting and will agree with me and what's more, it would cheer me up, since in real life, sometimes, people often say that I'm not right but here it's quite the opposite that happens, people say that I'm not right, and I'm ridiculed, like in real life yet no one knows me, so I would be cursed every time I post on the forum? Or am I so stupid that I can't understand what I'm writing? Anyway, thank you very much for supporting me.

@Brian-E
thank you very much, what you said cheers me up

@Brian-E
"People usually only respond to us when they disagree. Writing "you're absolutely right" clutters the topic unnecessarily"

you are absolutely right, it's like reviews in restaurants, especially in restaurants where the restaurant is not mega exceptional

in his restaurants, when the food is good and just ok and not exceptional either, people are not going to post a review saying: "it was good, I liked it"

there will be a lot more negative reviews because when someone thinks it's fair "correct", they won't bother posting them.

The positive response comes out the most in exceptional restaurants because the food is very good

and so sometimes, in the restaurant, the food which is considered ok but nothing more, not exceptional either, negative responses can arise, not all the time, but it happens.

I was starting to despair when I saw the first negative hand linked to my first text of this post

this hand has been removed, someone may have changed their mind and that makes me happy

@Brian-E thank you very much, what you said cheers me up @Brian-E "People usually only respond to us when they disagree. Writing "you're absolutely right" clutters the topic unnecessarily" you are absolutely right, it's like reviews in restaurants, especially in restaurants where the restaurant is not mega exceptional in his restaurants, when the food is good and just ok and not exceptional either, people are not going to post a review saying: "it was good, I liked it" there will be a lot more negative reviews because when someone thinks it's fair "correct", they won't bother posting them. The positive response comes out the most in exceptional restaurants because the food is very good and so sometimes, in the restaurant, the food which is considered ok but nothing more, not exceptional either, negative responses can arise, not all the time, but it happens. I was starting to despair when I saw the first negative hand linked to my first text of this post this hand has been removed, someone may have changed their mind and that makes me happy

When you make a new topic on an online forum and you ask people if 1 + 1 is 2, there will always be someone tryiing to argue that it's 3, just for the sake of being annoying. Some people have a strong desire to make their heart pump and they will hate and offend anything they can just because they are bored and in need of attention.

When you make a new topic on an online forum and you ask people if 1 + 1 is 2, there will always be someone tryiing to argue that it's 3, just for the sake of being annoying. Some people have a strong desire to make their heart pump and they will hate and offend anything they can just because they are bored and in need of attention.

@Geelse_zot
"When you make a new topic on an online forum and you ask people if 1 + 1 is 2, there will always be someone tryiing to argue that it's 3"

yes it is even more disturbing if the person who claims that 1+1=3 is a mathematician.

@Geelse_zot "When you make a new topic on an online forum and you ask people if 1 + 1 is 2, there will always be someone tryiing to argue that it's 3" yes it is even more disturbing if the person who claims that 1+1=3 is a mathematician.

no one says I have good ideas or agrees with what I say, that almost never happens

Maybe you should not take this as an attack, but as an opportunity to learn?

Most people are really helpful here. And if they point out your mistake over and over again, it is really tiring if keep repeating wrong arguments.

Support or advice would be welcome even if I'm sure no one will support what I say.

Don't ask if you are not interested in answers, or are not prepared to challenge your existing understanding.

> no one says I have good ideas or agrees with what I say, that almost never happens Maybe you should not take this as an attack, but as an opportunity to learn? Most people are really helpful here. And if they point out your mistake over and over again, it is really tiring if keep repeating wrong arguments. > Support or advice would be welcome even if I'm sure no one will support what I say. Don't ask if you are not interested in answers, or are not prepared to challenge your existing understanding.

@Geelse_zot
"When you make a new topic on an online forum and you ask people if 1 + 1 is 2, there will always be someone tryiing to argue that it's 3"

The better analogy here is that someone is actually creating a topic claiming 1 + 1 is 3, and people try to convince him that it's 2. ;-)

> @Geelse_zot > "When you make a new topic on an online forum and you ask people if 1 + 1 is 2, there will always be someone tryiing to argue that it's 3" The better analogy here is that someone is actually creating a topic claiming 1 + 1 is 3, and people try to convince him that it's 2. ;-)

Come on I am 2300 rapid and no one agrees with me either. Do not get affected. Protect your mental health. Just ignore what others say. Have great chess days ahead okay.

Come on I am 2300 rapid and no one agrees with me either. Do not get affected. Protect your mental health. Just ignore what others say. Have great chess days ahead okay.

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